Group Culture

You are going to come across a lot of opinions here. Some will be well reasoned and others won't. Some opinions will be more emotional while others are more logical. Some may align with traditional LDS views and others may share a different interpretation or push back. That's all ok.

Please do not think that just because we have chosen to let an opinion be voiced in the group, it automatically means we endorse that opinion. As admins, we may find some of the opinions shared to be unhealthy or not scientifically valid. We let them stand because there is always room for discussion and we want every group member to feel that they have a voice.

We also hope that you will have an open heart and mind as you encounter opinions which are very different from your own and ask that you please strive to understand those differing perspectives.

Ultimately, any one opinion that you read here does not necessarily represent the opinions of the admins, the mods, or the group as a whole.

GROUP RULES

1. PARTICIPATING IN THIS GROUP IS NOT THERAPY

This is a support and education group run by marriage/sex therapists (the admins, not the mods). Check their professional pages (under the Group By section) for information on therapy services.

2. ALL POSTS SHOULD FOCUS ON INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE

Be clear how your post relates to the topic and include an explanation if necessary. Posts seeking help or support should be focused on your issues rather than others' issues, particularly spouses.

3. TREAT EVERYONE AND THE TOPICS WITH RESPECT

No foul/degrading language such as name calling, shaming, labeling (freak, pervert, deviant, degenerate, addict, snowflake, etc), or crass/slang language referring to genitals, sex or sexual behavior.

4. THERE IS NO NORMAL SEXUALITY, INCLUDING YOURS

Sexuality is a broad spectrum. There is no "normal" or "perverted"; just different. Comments that leave a person feeling more broken, torn down, pathologized, or diminished violate this rule.

5. DO NOT CALL OTHER PEOPLE TO REPENTANCE

None of us are in a position to judge others. Criticizing how they practice their faith or their particular practice of the Gospel is inappropriate. Speak to your own beliefs and practice, not theirs.

6. NO REPOSTING/SHARING CONTENT WITHOUT PERMISSION

Openness, vulnerability, and the discussion of taboo topic only works if this is a safe space. You MUST have explicit permission from the poster/author to repost/share things outside of the group.

7. WE LEARN ABOUT SEXUALITY BY STUDY AND FAITH

We invite the best of science and gospel. Discussion and disagreements are to be thoughtful, polite, respectful, reasoned, and open (as opposed to "you're wrong-I'm right") at all times.

8. DO NOT PRIVATE MESSAGE OTHERS WITHOUT PERMISSION

If you aren't already FB friends, you must ask and get permission in a post/comment before privately contacting them. Group members may give blanket permission for a specific issue in their post.

9. NO ADVERTISING OF BUSINESSES, YOURS OR OTHERWISE

Admins may occasionally post/link/reference businesses that align with the group's purpose and mission. If you believe the group would benefit from your business, we'd be happy to review and post it.

10. CURRENT AND FORMER CLIENTS OF ADMINS ARE WELCOME

Your therapist is still bound by confidentiality. ANY interactions will be from the role of admin or fellow group participant. Admins will give no indication of an outside relationship.