Category: Marriage
Practical, research-informed writing on building a connected marriage: communication, desire, trust, and intimacy through every season.
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Jealousy And Social Media
Anonymous Question Series: Q: My husband gets jealous about Facebook likes, emojis, and comments I get from other men who are just friends. How do you recommend dealing with such situations? A: The quick answer: Recognize your husband’s jealousy is rooted in fears and insecurities and avoid taking responsibility for his emotions. Jealousy is a toxic…
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Transparency in All Things
Anonymous Question Series: Q: If someone has watched pornography or masturbated in the past, do you feel they are obligated to tell their future spouse? Does it depend on how long ago it was? There are three concepts in this question that need to be answered: 1) transparency in relationships, 2) stigma/shame of sexual sins/behaviors, 3)…
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Sex And Illness
Anonymous Question Series: Q: “What would you do if you had a sick spouse you loved but was unable to perform sex due to illness?” A: The quick answer: find a way. Consult with medical professionals and spouse (if they are capable of discussing) and explore options. If your spouse is physically or mentally incapable (or…
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Subdivisions In The Celestial Kingdom
Image: The Necessity for Receiving the Priesthood Ordinances of Salvation, Bruce Satterfield, Department of Religious Education, Brigham Young Universtiy – Idaho The traditional view of the Celestial Kingdom divided into three subdivision and its respective requirements (D&C 131:1-4) appear to be problematic, specifically the interpretation of “In the celestial glory there are three heavens or degrees; And…
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“Thank You” Doesn’t Quite Do It
“Building a celestial marriage. The scriptures give an occasional glimpse into societies in which people “were of one heart and one mind, and dwelt in righteousness; and there was no poor among them” (Moses 7:18), where “there was no contention in the land, because of the love of God which did dwell in the hearts…
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How To Train Your Spouse
Originally written for Kristy Jo Hunt on August 9, 2014. “Most couples make the mistake of giving each other the ‘remains of the day’ — the leftover time after every other relationship and task has been attended to. This is not only backwards, but destructive. Stellar partners give each other prime time and make each…
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Preparing For Marriage
“The best way to avoid divorce from an unfaithful, abusive, or unsupportive spouse is to avoid marriage to such a person. If you wish to marry well, inquire well. Associations through ‘hanging out’ or exchanging information on the Internet are not a sufficient basis for marriage. There should be dating, followed by careful and thoughtful…
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