Improving Intimacy: The Course
Understand your patterns. Practice a different way of connecting.
A course with weekly module releases for individuals navigating intimacy, marriage, and faith. Your partner does not need to participate, and you do not need to be in a relationship to begin.
$197 once · Ten modules · Guided written exercises · Permanent access Modules 0 and 1 open immediately at enrollment. Modules 2–9 unlock at seven-day intervals, from Module 2 on day 7 through Module 9 on day 56.
Education available worldwide. No therapy appointment required.
The work begins with what you can influence.
The course focuses on your patterns, values, choices, and ways of seeing a relationship. It offers a defined path for reflection and practice, including when a partner is not ready to participate.
Notice the pattern
Explore why familiar dynamics keep repeating, even when you can describe them clearly.
Find your own direction
Name what you want, clarify your values, and consider what drives your choices.
Practice connection & repair
Work with the stories you tell about your partner and the habits that shape conversations.
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Try a little of the work before you buy.
Lesson 7.1 explores the stories we write about a partner’s behavior. Here is a short passage from that lesson:
We conclude what our partner thinks or feels without checking — and then respond to our conclusion instead of to them.
Read a second short excerpt and try the first two prompts from G.O. 7, the Generous Interpretation Log. This is a partial preview of the teaching and practice, not the full lesson or exercise.
Want the overview first? Read the welcome and orientation, then explore every module below.
The complete curriculum
Open a module to see its focus and every lesson, from your starting point through putting the work into daily life.
Module 0 — Welcome & Orientation
Where you actually are right now, before anything changes. The Intimacy Compass you set here is the instrument you’ll re-read at the midpoint and again at the end.
- 0.1 Welcome
- 0.2 How This Course Works
- 0.3 Is This Course Right for You, Right Now?
- 0.4 Your Starting Point: The Intimacy Compass
- 0.5 Not Married? Not in a Relationship? Start Anyway
Module 1 — Why Nothing Has Worked Yet
Why the shelf of marriage books didn’t change anything, why fairness is the wrong frame, and why the individual is the unit of repair.
- 1.1 “Aren’t There Already a Lot of Books About Marriage?”
- 1.2 Book Speak
- 1.3 The Fairness Trap
- 1.4 Heal the Individual
Module 2 — Define Your Destination
You cannot navigate toward a destination you’ve never named. The four myths that quietly set most people’s destination for them, and how to measure by what’s working rather than what isn’t.
- 2.1 The Dream Vacation Parable
- 2.2 The Four Myths of Love
- 2.3 Measure Successes, Not Failures
- 2.4 Sign-Seeking
Module 3 — The Pull of the Familiar
Homeostasis: why good people stay stuck in patterns they can describe perfectly and still cannot leave. What the behaviour is doing for you, and where you learned it.
- 3.1 Why Good People Stay Stuck
- 3.2 What Value Does That Behavior Give You?
- 3.3 The Family You Came From
Module 4 — Reclaim Yourself
Two questions most people cannot answer about themselves, the pattern you keep re-entering, and the reason joy is often the hardest thing to tolerate.
- 4.1 Two Questions
- 4.2 Do You Know Who You Are?
- 4.3 Recognize Your Pattern
- 4.4 Why We Avoid Joy
Module 5 — Face Your Fears
The central diagnostic of the course: whether a given choice is driven by fear or by love — and how reliably fear disguises itself as the latter.
- 5.1 Fear or Love: What Actually Drives You?
- 5.2 Half Dome
- 5.3 Fear Wearing Love’s Clothing
- 5.4 The Downward Arrow
Module 6 — Self-Care Is Relationship Care
The distinction between self-sacrifice and self-care, which in faith communities is frequently collapsed — and what your actual priorities list says when you write it down honestly.
- 6.1 Self-Sacrifice vs. Self-Care
- 6.2 The Priorities List
- 6.3 Fear Orders the List
Module 7 — See Your Partner Clearly
The stories you’ve been telling yourself about who they are, the antidote to reading everything as a sign, and a daily practice that changes what you notice.
- 7.1 The Stories We Tell About Each Other
- 7.2 The Antidote to Sign-Seeking
- 7.3 Daily Adore
Module 8 — Connect Without Book Speak
Not another communication script. The four traps that make conversations fail, the four Cs, and how repair works — including why the mess itself is usable.
- 8.1 Why This Isn’t Just Another Communication Technique
- 8.2 The Four Traps
- 8.3 The Four Cs + Love
- 8.4 Repair: Leveraging the Mess
Module 9 — Live It
Re-reading the Compass you set in Module 0, what to do when the old pattern comes back — and it will — and how to keep going without the course.
- 9.1 Your Compass, Then and Now
- 9.2 When Homeostasis Comes Calling
- 9.3 Your Next Chapter
The guided exercises
Eight written exercises run alongside the modules, plus a midpoint check-in. Leave time to reflect and put the ideas into practice.
- G.O. 1 — Your Resource History
- G.O. 2 — The Miracle Question + DRAIN
- G.O. 3 — Homeostasis Self-Awareness
- G.O. 4 — Grounding + Values
- G.O. 5 — Discovering Your Fears
- G.O. 6 — Your List
- G.O. 7 — The Generous Interpretation Log
- G.O. 8 — The Empathy Exchange
- Midpoint Check-In: Your Compass
A pace that leaves room for practice
Modules 0 and 1 open immediately at enrollment. Modules 2–9 unlock at seven-day intervals, from Module 2 on day 7 through Module 9 on day 56. Work at your own pace within the released modules, leaving time for the guided exercises. Permanent access lets you pause, take longer, and return to the material.
Common questions
Do I need my partner to take it with me?
No. The course is built for one person to work through independently. Module 0 also addresses beginning when you are not currently in a relationship.
How long does it take?
Modules 0 and 1 open immediately at enrollment. Modules 2–9 unlock at seven-day intervals, from Module 2 on day 7 through Module 9 on day 56. All modules are available by day 56; you can take longer to work through them and return to the released material with permanent access.
What do I keep?
The course is a one-time purchase of $197 with permanent access. Membership is separate unless you choose Complete, which includes a membership year.
Is it specifically LDS?
The course takes LDS, post-LDS, and mixed-faith experiences seriously. You do not need to hold a particular position on faith to participate.
Is this therapy?
No. The course is education based on clinical practice, and taking it does not create a therapeutic relationship. Personal clinical care requires a separate professional relationship.
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