Daniel A. Burgess · Two books in progress
Books, ideas, and everyday practice.
I’m working on two adult books about the patterns we bring to marriage and the meaning we give sexuality, faith, and ourselves. A shared question runs through them: how do we bring more of ourselves to a relationship while leaving the other person room to choose?
The books are works in progress. The titles below are working titles; publication dates and editions have not been announced.
Marriage & partnership
Beyond Managing
Working title · A book in progress by Daniel A. Burgess
Marriage advice can become another way to grade each other. I use the image of a Living Room Courtroom: one person prosecutes, the other defends, and both are trying to get a verdict.
This project asks what happens when we bring that effort back to the parts we can influence: our values, our fears, the stories we tell, and the ways we choose to show up. Its themes include measuring what matters, caring for yourself without disappearing from the relationship, and speaking with clarity and curiosity.
The aim is a partnership with room for two people. A technique has to serve that relationship; it cannot do the choosing for either person.
Sexuality, faith & wholeness
Created for Connection
Working title · A book in progress by Daniel A. Burgess
This project engages Latter-day Saint teachings, sexual health, and the messages people carry about their bodies and worth. It looks at how fear, incomplete information, and inherited expectations can shape the questions we feel able to ask.
The framework makes room for accurate knowledge, agency, respect, consent, and growth across a lifetime. It treats sexuality as a broad part of being human, including identity, bodily experience, closeness, and health.
The book has its own faith context. My work with readers and clients leaves room for the path you are on—committed, questioning, leaving, or living alongside someone whose beliefs differ.
Three ideas I return to
Begin with what is yours to choose.
Your choices matter. So does the other person’s agency. Reflection is a place to understand your own part without taking responsibility for someone else’s choices.
Stay curious about the story.
We can move quickly from something we observe to an explanation of what it means. Making room for a question can be more useful than preparing the next argument.
Notice what you want to make room for.
“Less conflict” may tell us what we want to leave behind. It helps to name what we hope to make room for: honesty, warmth, mutual respect, or time together that both people choose.
Explore the teaching available now.
- Free course practice — selected teaching and two reflection prompts from the existing course.
- Public articles — writing on relationships, sexuality, and faith.
- Improving Intimacy: The Course — a separate, structured curriculum with weekly module releases and permanent access.
- The Inner Circle — member essays and five private forums available now. Live Q&A, a recordings archive, and premium audio are planned and not yet available.
You can use the current teaching without waiting for either book. Have course or Inner Circle access? Open six book practice companions that connect these ideas with current course lessons and member essays. You can also return to Member Home.