The Inner Circle • Members-only essays
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Member essays (4 Published Essays)
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Good Girl Syndrome, Temple Transitions, and the Nervous System: Why a Wedding Ring Cannot Flip a 20-Year Shame Switch Overnight
For twenty years, you do everything right. You guard your thoughts, dress modestly, shut down sexual curiosity the instant it flickers in your body, and equate being a 'good person' with keeping your erotic self locked in the basement. Because your body loves you and wants you to…
After the Disclosure: Why Policing & Confessional Loops Keep Both Spouses Stuck
When pornography use or sexual secrecy comes to light in a faith-centered marriage, the immediate aftermath almost always follows a script neither spouse wrote—one they absorbed from culture, well-meaning leaders, or generic addiction recovery checklists. One spouse is handed the badge of warden: checking routers, reading screen-time reports,…
The Pursuer–Withdrawer Sexual Gridlock: Why Trying Harder to Initiate Creates More Distance
In almost every marriage experiencing a painful desire gap, both partners are exhausted—and both are convinced the other person holds all the power. The higher-desire partner feels like a beggar in their own marriage, counting the days since last time, reading every sigh or turned shoulder in bed…
When the Advice Made It Worse
Every so often someone tells me, carefully, that they did what they were told and it made things worse. They took the advice. They read the book, kept the log, had the conversation, followed the counsel they were given in an office by someone who meant well. And…
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