Category: Intimacy, Desire & Sexual Health
Desire, arousal, sexless seasons, and evidence-based sexual health education.
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Sexless Marriage: What Counts, What Causes It, and What Actually Helps
“Sexless marriages,” often overlooked yet frequently searched, typically involve intimacy lapses rather than a complete absence of sex, defined as under ten instances annually. Couples face challenges stemming from communication issues, desire differences, and unresolved feelings. Open discussions and professional support can rebuild connection and intimacy without blame, addressing underlying causes effectively.
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Mismatched Desire Is Not the Same as Rejection
In most couples I work with, one partner wants sex more often than the other. That isn’t a sign the marriage is broken — it’s one of the most common dynamics in long-term relationships. What damages marriages isn’t the difference itself. It’s the story each partner tells about what the difference means. The two stories…
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Responsive Desire: Why Waiting to “Feel in the Mood” Often Fails
Most people were taught only one model of desire — and it’s the less common one. Understanding responsive desire changes everything about a ‘low desire’ marriage.
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The Best Improving Intimacy Episodes & Articles — from an LDS-Background Sex Therapist
A curated guide to the most-loved Improving Intimacy episodes and articles, organized by what you’re facing — desire, betrayal, shame, faith transition, and more.
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Protecting Intimacy When One of You Stops Believing
Faith transition changes a couple’s sexual relationship in ways almost nobody talks about. A licensed sex-and-marriage therapist on keeping — and often deepening — intimacy across a belief divide.
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Sacred Sexuality: An LDS Perspective on Intimacy, Desire, and the Body
In LDS theology, the body is sacred. The creation is good. Marriage is an eternal covenant. Sexuality, within that covenant, is meant to be a sacred expression of love, intimacy,…
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Sarah Chapman’s Journey of Self-Realization | Learning to Enjoy Sexuality
My name is Sarah Chapman. I’ve been married for almost 20 years to my husband, Trent, together we have 5 children and live in Lehi, Utah. I am an author of two books, “MindStrength for Women” and “Underneath it all…..You’re Naked” Both of these books were written after a very hard period of time in…
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Marriage and Sex after Divorce | Nicole and David Make Sex a Priority and Navigate Sexual Triggers
Nicole and David, both previously divorced, share their experiences in navigating sex in their marriage. How they address sexual triggers from their previous marriages and how to make sex a priority while raising young children. Nicole and David have been life-long, active members of the LDS church. They were both previously married and sealed in…
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Love Your Sex Life | with Denita Bremer
Denita Bremer is a Certified Life Coach and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saint living with her husband and three kids in beautiful Colorado. She is on a mission to help Latter-day Saint wives love their sex lives and have the intimacy they always (or never) dreamed of. You can…
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How Liz Improved Her Sexual Health and Marital Intimacy
Liz shares a recent experience that led her from “masturbation is a sin” to “masturbation is totally fine.” Which shifted and improved everything about her sexual health and marital intimacy. Continue the improving intimacy discussion by joining the Improving Intimacy Facebook group.
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