New here? This is the map. Years of Improving Intimacy episodes and articles, curated by what you’re actually facing tonight — so you don’t have to scroll the archive hoping to stumble onto the right one. I’m Daniel A. Burgess, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in sexuality and faith. Every conversation below is free.
If your marriage is in a sexless season
- Reigniting the Flame with Amy and Aaron — a couple rebuilds intimacy after 25 years and a fully sexless stretch. The most hope-per-minute in the archive.
- How Liz Improved Her Sexual Health and Marital Intimacy — high desire, low desire, and what actually moved the needle.
- Marriage and Sex After Divorce: Nicole and David — making sex a priority while navigating sexual triggers.
When you’re ready for structured help: sexless marriage counseling.
If pornography or betrayal is part of your story
- Why Most LDS Pornography Problems Are Really About Shame — the article to read first, before any filter or program.
- Is Pornography Addiction Real? What the Research Actually Says — the evidence, without the panic.
- Betrayal Trauma: Anarie’s Definition of Success and Betrayal Trauma and Recovery — the injured partner’s side, taken seriously.
- Brett and Shendi: The Impact of Pornography on Marriage — a couple who came through it, together.
- LDS Women — Overcoming Pornography: The Opposite of Addiction Is Connection and An Unspoken Struggle — because this isn’t only a men’s issue, and the silence around women is its own harm.
If you’re unlearning purity culture and sexual shame
- Purity Culture Trauma: How Religious Sexual Shame Affects LDS Adults — the clinical map of what those messages did.
- The “Don’t Touch” series — my nine-part deep dive into sexual taboos in the LDS faith, start to finish.
- Is Masturbation a Sin? and Mike Frazier Asks the Hard Questions — the question every LDS adult has Googled and few have asked out loud.
- Sacred Sexuality: An LDS Perspective on Intimacy, Desire, and the Body — for readers who want a faithful frame, not a rejection of one.
Deeper help: religious trauma & purity culture recovery.
If you’re a woman reclaiming your sexuality
- Sarah Chapman’s Journey of Self-Realization: Learning to Enjoy Sexuality — consistently one of the most-shared episodes.
- Empowering Women: Liz Glorioso on Discovering Your Sexual Identity
- Evelyn’s Experiences with Masturbation, Vaginismus, Anxiety and Marriage — naming the things that make sex painful, literally and otherwise.
- Love Your Sex Life with Denita Bremer and Come As You Are (book discussion) — desire science for real bodies.
If faith and marriage are colliding
- The Mixed-Faith Marriage Survival Guide — the complete playbook, plus its companion pieces on when your spouse leaves the Church and protecting intimacy through a faith transition.
- My Journey Reshaping Sexual Health in the LDS Community — the backstory of this whole project.
- Marrying Outside of Faith and My Son Is Not Baptized and That Is Okay — from my own family’s life.
- What Is Scrupulosity? Behind the Scenes of “The OCD Mormon” — when religious anxiety becomes clinical.
Couples telling their own stories
- Jordan and Bronwen, Nich and Kelsey, John and Katie, Daniel and Julie — the Couple Highlight series.
- Depression and Anxiety in Marriage: Nich and Kelsey on Boundaries and Communication
- Leanne’s two-part story — how seeking to understand her husband’s struggle led to discovering her own sexuality.
Where to go from here
If something above hit close to home, you have three doors: keep reading (it’s all free), take the self-paced route with Improving Intimacy: The Course, or talk to me directly — therapy or coaching, starting with a free 15-minute consultation.
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