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The following two questions are so similar that I chose to include them both in this response. 

Q: I met a man who is generous, grateful, patient and compassionate but knew nothing about my faith, which is important for me. Is happiness possible with such a person who does not believe in Christ?

Related learningRelated course topics include Module 4 (Reclaim Yourself) & Module 5 (Face Your Fears) inside Improving Intimacy: The Course.

Q: Would different faiths work out in a marriage?

A: The quick answer, yes! Be mindful that it must be guided by the Lord.

Yes, absolutely. However, as you know, marrying outside the faith adds an additional complexity to the relationship. Though, marrying within the faith doesn’t guarantee success or happiness, having an interfaith marriage or marrying someone without a faith also doesn’t mean you can’t have a successful and happy marriage. You must simply be aware of the potential challenges.

Here are some interesting statistics: 21 Intriguing Interfaith Marriage Statistics

As I have shared in my other post, Happiest Marriages, there has to be a solid foundation of true love — a foundation of what it means to truly adore each other. You must not in any way go into the marriage with the belief that you will “convert” your spouse. Neither should the other ever make you feel the need to compromise your beliefs to any degree. Go into the marriage recognizing that it is inappropriate for you to make your spouse comply to your belief system, just as it would be for them to make you loosen up on your belief system. You will both need to explore what it will look like to raise kids and if that will be in or out of the faith. It will be hard, but if you can both truly embrace each other in adoration, and the Lord guides you in that direction, then yes, absolutely, it can work — and it can work really well.

See also:

Happiest Marriages

How to Train Your Spouse

Marital Myth of Communication

Book: “Real Love“

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Daniel A. Burgess, LMFT

Daniel A. Burgess, LMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in couples therapy, sexual health, and faith transitions across the Latter-day Saint spectrum. Creator of the Improving Intimacy podcast and community. More about Daniel · Book a free 15-minute consult

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