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Free, public writing on intimacy, sexual health, faith transitions and trust repair — from Daniel A. Burgess, LMFT. The fuller, more clinical version of this conversation lives in the Inner Circle, from $19 a month.
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How To Train Your Spouse
Originally written for Kristy Jo Hunt on August 9, 2014. “Most couples make the mistake of giving each other the ‘remains of the day’ — the leftover time after every other relationship and task has been attended to. This is not only backwards, but destructive. Stellar partners give each other prime time and make each…
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Because She Is A Mother
“You can’t possibly do this alone, but you do have help. The Master of Heaven and Earth is there to bless you — He who resolutely goes after the lost sheep, sweeps thoroughly to find the lost coin, waits everlastingly for the return of the prodigal son. Yours is the work of salvation, and therefore…
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A light in Darkness
“The submission of one’s will is really the only uniquely personal thing we have to place on God’s altar. The many other things we ‘give’ are actually the things He has already given or loaned to us.” —Neal A. Maxwell One evening after attending the temple, I looked back and saw what I was feeling:…
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Sunday School For The Noisy
If you have kids, a noisy husband or are a nursing mother, this Sunday School class is for you. For the last two years I have had the wonderful pleasure of teaching a Sunday School designed specifically for parents of toddlers. The class is open to everyone, and there is a handful of individuals and…
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#ShareGoodness
“We have been and are blessed in so many ways; and where much is given, much is required. As an Apostle of the Lord Jesus Christ, I invoke this blessing upon you: that you may come to understand more fully the spiritual significance and blessing of living in the dispensation of the fulness of times,…
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Preparing For Marriage
“The best way to avoid divorce from an unfaithful, abusive, or unsupportive spouse is to avoid marriage to such a person. If you wish to marry well, inquire well. Associations through ‘hanging out’ or exchanging information on the Internet are not a sufficient basis for marriage. There should be dating, followed by careful and thoughtful…
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Nurturing a Spirit-Guided Life: Trusting Inner Wisdom for Yourself and Your Children
As a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and a father of five, if there was one enduring gift I could impart to my children, it would be the profound ability to listen to and discern the Spirit in their lives. It’s the capacity to embrace that perfect, innate teacher—not with apprehension, hesitation, or resistance,…
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Spiritual WOD: A Crossfit Approach to Joyful and Consistent Scripture Study
Many of us seek parallels between different areas of our lives, looking for principles that unlock growth and fulfillment. For me, a surprising yet profound connection emerged between the intensity of my physical fitness regimen and the depth of my spiritual journey. This is the story of my “Spiritual WOD” – a Crossfit-inspired path to…