LDS Women — Overcoming Pornography: The Opposite Of Addiction Is Connection

Overcoming Pornography: The Opposite of Addiction Is Connection — Why isolation fuels compulsive coping behaviors—and how belonging and authentic connection foster recovery. (Daniel A. Burgess, LMFT | Improving Intimacy)
While reading “LDS Women — Overcoming Pornography: The Opposite Of Addiction Is Connection,” I saw this Ted Talk for the first time, and I had to write about it. It’s called “Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong,” by Johann Hari.

Johann Hari discusses how rats that are isolated in a cage with nothing to do prefer water laced with heroin over pure water. These rats will use the heroin until they eventually overdose, and it kills them. However, rats in a cage set up like a “rat park” where they have fun things to do and other rats to socialize with prefer the pure water over the heroin-laced water.

Johann raises some questions about this phenomenon. “What if addiction isn’t about your chemical hooks? What if addiction is about your “cage”? What if addiction is an adaptation to your environment?

Related learningRelated course topics include Module 3 (The Pull of the Familiar) & Module 8 (Connect Without Book Speak) inside Improving Intimacy: The Course.

“Maybe we should call it bonding. When we’re happy and healthy we bond and connect with each other. But if you can’t do that because you’re traumatized, or isolated, or beaten down by life, you will bond with something that will give you some sense of relief. Now, that might be gambling. That might be pornography. That might be cocaine. That might be cannabis. But you will bond and connect with something. Because that’s our nature. That’s what we want as human beings.”

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Watch the Ted Talk here: Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong | Johann Hari

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Daniel A. Burgess, LMFT

Daniel A. Burgess, LMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in couples therapy, sexual health, and faith transitions across the Latter-day Saint spectrum. Creator of the Improving Intimacy podcast and community. More about Daniel · Book a free 15-minute consult

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