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Free, public writing on intimacy, sexual health, faith transitions and trust repair — from Daniel A. Burgess, LMFT. The fuller, more clinical version of this conversation lives in the Inner Circle, from $19 a month.
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Book Review: Period Repair Manual by Lara Briden
The Improving Intimacy book recommendation and reviews are written by Latter-day Saints giving a gospel-centered perspective. This book review is provided by both Kelsey Henry and Julie Burgess. They both have very positive things to say about the “Period Repair Manual” by Dr. Lara Briden. Which is one of our most popular book recommendations. Kelsey…
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Betrayal Trauma and Recovery
Betrayal trauma is disheartening and destructive. It is critical to be a trauma informed therapist when working with clients who have been abused. I will never forget the evening I met with ‘Devon’ and ‘Emma’, a couple seeking support for “communication issues.” The moment they sat in front of me I knew something wasn’t right.…
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When do I say yes to marriage?
Copyright © 2017 Daniel A. Burgess, MA LMFT. All Rights Reserved. “Marriage Readiness Questions” danielaburgess.com Copyright When do I say yes to marriage? “The best way to avoid divorce from an unfaithful, abusive, or unsupportive spouse is to avoid marriage to such a person. If you wish to marry well, inquire well. Associations through ‘hanging…
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The Ideal and the Real: a Reading of Genesis 38 and Judah
Guest post by: Tyson Yapias All right, fellow Latter-day Saints, let’s have a talk about sexual sins and how we react to them. This is all brought on by this week’s Come Follow Me lesson on Alma 39, which has been used as the preeminent scriptural text on how serious sexual sins are. I’m…
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Questions and Answers with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife PhD
In this episode, Jennifer Finlayson-Fife PhD answers questions from our Improving Intimacy community. Here are the podcast episodes used for Book Club: Ask A Mormon Sex Therapist, Part 16 – THE oft-cited Episode 16 that has positively impacted so many marriages! Partner Desirability and High/Low Desire Dynamics Virtue, Passion, and Owning Your Desire You can…
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Improving Intimacy Book Club with Guest: Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Jennifer Finlayson-Fife has graciously agreed to join us FOR ONE HOUR ONLY to share her amazing insights and answer questions! The book club hosts will select a small number of questions for Jennifer to answer. Here are the podcast episodes used for Book Club: Ask A Mormon Sex Therapist, Part 16 – THE oft-cited Episode…
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Part 2-2 | How Desiring to Understand My Husband’s Struggle Led to Healthy Dialogue and Healing and Discovering My Own Sexuality
Part 2-2: How Desiring to Understand My Husband’s Struggle Led to Healthy Dialogue and Healing and Discovering My Own Sexuality Leanne is a wife of 31 years. She has 2 children who are both married. She is the grandmother of one. She is a retired preschool teacher of 17 years. She is enjoying her season…
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Part 1-2 | How Desiring to Understand My Husband’s Struggle Led to Healthy Dialogue and Healing and Discovering My Own Sexuality
Part 1-2 | How Desiring to Understand My Husband’s Struggle Led to Healthy Dialogue and Healing and Discovering My Own Sexuality Leanne is a wife of 31 years. She has 2 children who are both married. She is the grandmother of one. She is a retired preschool teacher of 17 years. She is enjoying her…
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Marriage and Sex after Divorce | Nicole and David Make Sex a Priority and Navigate Sexual Triggers
Nicole and David, both previously divorced, share their experiences in navigating sex in their marriage. How they address sexual triggers from their previous marriages and how to make sex a priority while raising young children. Nicole and David have been life-long, active members of the LDS church. They were both previously married and sealed in…
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Love Your Sex Life | with Denita Bremer
Denita Bremer is a Certified Life Coach and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saint living with her husband and three kids in beautiful Colorado. She is on a mission to help Latter-day Saint wives love their sex lives and have the intimacy they always (or never) dreamed of. You can…