Tag: Pornography
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Why Most LDS Pornography Problems Are Really About Shame
When LDS individuals and couples come to therapy around pornography, they often expect to work on “the addiction.” What they find is something more complex — and more hopeful: the…
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Is Pornography Addiction Real? What the Research Actually Says
If you’ve grown up in an LDS or religious household, you’ve likely heard pornography described as an addiction — something that hijacks the brain like heroin, something shameful…
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“Don’t Touch” — Summary
Why This Article As an active Latter-day Saint marriage and family therapist, I have worked with many clients who have struggled for many years with pornography and masturbation. At the same time, most of my couples work involves a need to cultivate increasing desire. The current approaches of reading more scriptures, prayer, temple attendance, more…
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Female Struggles With Porn And Masturbation
Anonymous Question Series: Q: “What is your advice to females who have watched pornography or masturbate?” A: The quick answer: Love yourself, be kind to yourself, retain the joy and beauty that is your sexuality, come out of hiding, and be confident in your struggle. Your question is important to me, one I am addressing in depth…
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Transparency in All Things
Anonymous Question Series: Q: If someone has watched pornography or masturbated in the past, do you feel they are obligated to tell their future spouse? Does it depend on how long ago it was? There are three concepts in this question that need to be answered: 1) transparency in relationships, 2) stigma/shame of sexual sins/behaviors, 3)…
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LDS Women — Overcoming Pornography: The Opposite Of Addiction Is Connection
While reading “LDS Women — Overcoming Pornography: The Opposite Of Addiction Is Connection,” I saw this Ted Talk for the first time, and I had to write about it. It’s called “Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong,” by Johann Hari. Johann Hari discusses how rats that are isolated in a cage with…
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An Unspoken Struggle: LDS Women Addicted To Pornography
“So. I am an active member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and have been my entire life. My struggles with pornography began in 2003 out of a mix of boredom and curiosity. For years now, I have felt like one day I would share my experiences, and that from the things…