Tag: Anonymous Question Series
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Because I Loved Her, I Left Her
Anonymous Question Series: The following two questions are so similar that I chose to include them both in this response. I will be speaking in terms of divorce, but these concepts are equally applicable to “break ups” before marriage and within engagements. Q: When do you suggest that a problematic/troubled partnership separate? Or stay together?…
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Anonymous Questions
Anonymous Questions Whenever I am invited to speak or present a workshop, I provide the participants an opportunity to ask anonymous questions. It has been a valuable experience to hear the weighty, raw and real concerns of those who are struggling for answers. After presenting for five years now, the questions appear to have similar…
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Marrying Outside Of Faith
Anonymous Question Series: The following two questions are so similar that I chose to include them both in this response. Q: I met a man who is generous, grateful, patient and compassionate but knew nothing about my faith, which is important for me. Is happiness possible with such a person who does not believe in…
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Happiest Marriages
Anonymous Question Series: Q: What kind of marriage partnerships have you seen are the the happiest? Give some examples of how they work through times of disagreement or misunderstanding. A: The quick answer: Couples who know how to adore versus accept. These couples learn how to be okay with the “messy” of each other. Those who…
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Female Struggles With Porn And Masturbation
Anonymous Question Series: Q: “What is your advice to females who have watched pornography or masturbate?” A: The quick answer: Love yourself, be kind to yourself, retain the joy and beauty that is your sexuality, come out of hiding, and be confident in your struggle. Your question is important to me, one I am addressing in depth…
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Jealousy And Social Media
Anonymous Question Series: Q: My husband gets jealous about Facebook likes, emojis, and comments I get from other men who are just friends. How do you recommend dealing with such situations? A: The quick answer: Recognize your husband’s jealousy is rooted in fears and insecurities and avoid taking responsibility for his emotions. Jealousy is a toxic…
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Transparency in All Things
Anonymous Question Series: Q: If someone has watched pornography or masturbated in the past, do you feel they are obligated to tell their future spouse? Does it depend on how long ago it was? There are three concepts in this question that need to be answered: 1) transparency in relationships, 2) stigma/shame of sexual sins/behaviors, 3)…
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Sex And Illness
Anonymous Question Series: Q: “What would you do if you had a sick spouse you loved but was unable to perform sex due to illness?” A: The quick answer: find a way. Consult with medical professionals and spouse (if they are capable of discussing) and explore options. If your spouse is physically or mentally incapable (or…
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